Welcome to the Millennial quarter-life crisis

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Do you ever look around and feel behind in, well, practically every aspect of your life?

Where’s my graduate degree? Engagement ring? High-profile job? Baby bump? Shouldn’t I be further along by now? Why does it look like everyone is moving forward in life, while I’m just out here treading water?

Welcome to the Millennial quarter-life crisis. There are so many of us that we should get jackets.

I was in that exact same existential spiral when I stumbled upon the book The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter- And How to Make the Most of them Now by clinical…

No, this isn’t about taking more bubble baths

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Let’s face it; face masks and bubble baths aren’t actually self-care. While I love pampering myself as much as the next person, I’m a firm believer that true self-care isn’t sexy. No, I don’t have an issue with bubble baths — I swear — but I do have a problem with substituting commercialized ‘self-care’ rituals for authentic self-care practices.

Genuine self-care often requires you to do the ugly thing, the thing that causes you some discomfort. It means taking care of yourself in the realest sense — doing the thing that will ultimately improve your life in the long-run.


What to do when you’ve been avoiding important tasks.

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Ironically, this story took me an entire two weeks to write — and not because procrastination is a particularly complex or difficult topic to write about.

The reason it took so long to write is because, for some arbitrary reason, I decided that it was going to be ‘the one.’ This would be the story that set my writing career in motion; an original and thought-provoking piece on the psychology of procrastination. Surely, this one story would launch my Medium earnings into the big leagues.

Do not do this. Don’t place an inordinate amount of importance on a specific task…

Here’s how it went

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In my last semester of college, I suffered from major senioritis. I was burnt out from back-to-back undergrads and tired of working shitty part-time jobs to pay my way through school. I desperately longed for financial freedom. So, instead of focus on my finals, I let myself get sucked into the world of side hustles.

The thing about ‘side hustles’ is that, in the beginning, they all seem too good not to try. For this reason, I ended up adopting a ‘the more, the merrier’ approach in the hopes that one would stick.

Over the past six months, I’ve dabbled…

One step closer to secure attachment

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It’s not very often I say this, but I watched a pretty life-changing TikTok the other day. But before we get into that, I just want to say that yes, I’m a 27-year-old with TikTok. And yes, I struggle with extreme relationship anxiety.

This might be the cause of your relationship anxiety

Popular social psychology tells me that the anxiety I experience in my relationships is a result of my ‘attachment style.’ If you’re not familiar with attachment theory, I’ll give you a quick run-down.

Essentially, attachment styles are patterns of how we think, feel, and behave in close relationships. They are thought to be a result of the…

Honest advice for if you’re just starting out

If you’re new to freelance writing then you’re probably painfully aware of the catch-22:

You can’t get clients without previous writing experience and you can’t get paid writing experience without clients.

I was faced with this exact dilemma when I first started writing back in January 2021. I loved writing and I was curious to see if I could turn this passion into a few extra dollars a month. Although I enjoyed publishing on Medium, I knew I needed to find a solution to the freelance writing conundrum if I was going to see a paycheck anytime soon.

Want to…


(that I wish someone had told me)

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I know from personal experience that dating in the era of swiping, ghosting, and hook-up culture can be rough.

Having experienced my fair share of unsolicited ‘u up?’ texts, clingy guys, and, self-proclaimed commitment-phobes, I know first-hand the toll that dating can have on your self-esteem.

It can be both mentally and emotionally draining if you don’t recognize your own self-worth and advocate for yourself. For this reason, it’s important to develop a strong foundation of self-care practices to help you navigate the dating scene.

In this sense, ‘self-care’ doesn’t mean buying a face mask or running a bubble bath…

How to leverage your reward pathway

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I don’t care how much grit you think you have, doing hard things sucks sometimes.

It takes an extraordinarily motivated Gary Vaynerchuk-type person to consistently pursue their goals on a daily basis. Expecting to maintain that level of motivation is simply unrealistic. You get tired, you burn out, and you desperately try to get your spark back by listening to motivational podcasts.

This is the wrong approach.

The truth is that you don’t need motivation to get things done. All you need is a rudimentary understanding of neurobiology and a strategy to help you hack it.

The Neurological Basis of Motivation

At the neurological level…


Here’s how to spot them early

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Much to my lesbian mother’s dismay, I turned out to be heterosexual. Unfortunately for me, that meant I had to learn to navigate the rocky landscape of dating in the 21st century on my own.

While I became adept at recognizing the signs that a guy is an overt asshole pretty quickly (ie. he’s rude to wait staff, he refers to other men as ‘beta males,’ and he unironically asks to be called ‘daddy’), it took me a lot longer to figure out the more subtle signs that a guy is bad news.

Now, after 17 years of dating, I…

How I’ve learned to work less but achieve more

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Hustle porn is real. I’ll be the first to admit that I was kind of into it; the 5 AM morning routines, the medical student study vlogs, and the motivational speech compilations. Yup, I was totally guilty of fetishizing long, grueling work hours in pursuit of success. It wasn’t until burnout knocked me on my ass that I realized I’d gotten it wrong: you can be insanely busy and still fail to be truly productive.

Last December was when it hit me. I had just crawled across the finish line of the busiest semester of my life — I’d said…

Ruth Burrowes

Foodie and freelancer with a passion for running in circles (400m circles, to be exact.)

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